how do you get over a serious ex girlfriend?

Juggs · 01-11-2007, 03:10 PM

i was with this girl for 4 years, thought i was going to marry her. turns out she was getting extremely possessive and didnt want to wait to get married ( i wanted her to finish up with nursing school before asking her the question). she got defensive so i let her go. a few weeks goes by, we talk off and on, and recently she got very ill with a kidney infection. i was going to bring her dinner to her apartment but she kept saying no no, shes not up to it. Turns out she's dating some "pretty boy" now and her friends gave me the low down that even though she was saying she wanted to work things out with me, she doesnt want to.

So now i need to completely put her out of my mind, buts its really hard. how do you get over someone? I'm going out on a date tonight with this girl i've known for a while, but im not like "excited" about it, i miss my ex

just4kickz · 01-11-2007, 03:11 PM

hire a stripper

Juggs · 01-11-2007, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by just4kickz

hire a stripper

meh im not into fu*king whores, i did the fraternity thing in college - im all burned out of that BS.

007e92 · 01-11-2007, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Juggs

i was with this girl for 4 years, thought i was going to marry her. turns out she was getting extremely possessive and didnt want to wait to get married ( i wanted her to finish up with nursing school before asking her the question). she got defensive so i let her go. a few weeks goes by, we talk off and on, and recently she got very ill with a kidney infection. i was going to bring her dinner to her apartment but she kept saying no no, shes not up to it. Turns out she's dating some "pretty boy" now and her friends gave me the low down that even though she was saying she wanted to work things out with me, she doesnt want to.

So now i need to completely put her out of my mind, buts its really hard. how do you get over someone? I'm going out on a date tonight with this girl i've known for a while, but im not like "excited" about it, i miss my ex

nothing gets you over the last one, LIKE YOUR NEXT ONE, or the next two

Viral · 01-11-2007, 03:29 PM

it's a tough situation, but unfortunately there is no real answer. It will take a combination of being strong, talking/surrounding yourself with those close to you, and maybe even getting out on some dates to see where your head is at.

Good luck.........

KL2DC · 01-11-2007, 03:32 PM

Time heals all....

This is in addition to recommendations from the previous posts. There is not one magic formula, I'm afraid. Just suck it up. Life goes on. If you believe in that sort of thing, everything happens for a reason and sometimes its not clear why somethings are happening but all will be revealed, just have faith.

GL.

Josh49 · 01-11-2007, 03:36 PM

Try to keep as active as possible. Get to the gym, go running, etc. Physical activity keeps your mind distracted well. Don't sit around thinking about it, it'll eat away at you. Get out there and start meeting new people, having good times..

G/L..

mayanh8 · 01-11-2007, 03:37 PM

Get a hobby and keep yourself busy with it, but not too busy that it stops you from meeting the next girl.

La Verdad · 01-11-2007, 03:42 PM

take your best friend (code named: wing man) to a series of hot bars and clubs and 'go shopping'. anything to keep your mind off the old ex.

BigO1120 · 01-11-2007, 03:42 PM

I feel your pain my brotha! I was dating this girl for about 3 years and I thought she was the one...until one day I caught her holding hands with her best friend. Did I punch the guy in the face...nah! It turns out that once news spread that we broke up SO MANY girls came up to me telling me that they never liked the "BIATCH" and I ended up hooking up with so many of those girls. So for me...breaking up with her was the best thing that happened to me!

So keep your head up my brotha!!! It's going to take some time to heal. Later down the road you might end up having some ex-sex but don't let it get any further then that! She F'd you over and that's the best playing card you have against her. If she comes crying to you just slap her over the face with your hairy bean bag and kick her to the curb!

Play on playa...and keep that pimp hand STRONG!!!!

MoreCowbell · 01-11-2007, 03:46 PM

Sorry, but...

BigO1120 · 01-11-2007, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by gluck75

Sorry, but...

You wanna know what my man's ex looks like?

MoreCowbell · 01-11-2007, 03:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigO1120

You wanna know what my man's ex looks like?

What, no good???

BigO1120 · 01-11-2007, 03:52 PM

Give the man some time...I'm sure the last thing he wants to do is look at the woman who just crushed him!

MoreCowbell · 01-11-2007, 03:55 PM

It's a tough thing. I've been there. You think for a while, there is absolutely nobody out there who can compare to your ex. And then, one day, when you least expect it, you find that one person who makes your ex look feeble.

Trust me, it'll happen.

herbz · 01-11-2007, 03:56 PM

by being depressed about it, all you're doing is letting HER win.

one of my most important rules in life is this: NEVER EVER EVER love a girl that doesn't love you back.

my advice to you is this: grow a pair of balls, there are billions of women on this planet. she doesn't love you. she's not "the one" you thought she was.

FORGET about her.

sounds harsh, yes, but the typical emo psychiatrist remarks don't work. the only thing that works is to be a man about it.

you don't wanna end up like this *** do you? http://keltarking.livejournal.com/ <---- just some random "livejournal" page i found with probably THE biggest bitch of a man i've ever seen in my life as the author

MoreCowbell · 01-11-2007, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by herbz

one of my most important rules in life is this: NEVER EVER EVER love a girl that doesn't love you back.

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You Can't help who you love!!!

herbz · 01-11-2007, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by gluck75

You Can't help who you love!!!

you can't decide who you naturally love, but you can supress your feelings into eventually nothing without crying on your pillow every night like a girl. it takes willpower and a pair of testicles. it's definetely possible if i've done it.

you're a guy: go concentrate on work, watch some football, drive your car, have a drink, smoke some reefer, whatever. as time passes, feelings subside.

MoreCowbell · 01-11-2007, 04:25 PM

Two Words:

RUB & TUG

Heidelberg328i · 01-11-2007, 04:42 PM

get laid....f**k it!

darkcloud · 01-11-2007, 04:43 PM

Sorry to hear bro. Last major g/f I had I broke up with her so I didn't have the sudden detachment feelings. It sucked, but we did have the occasional roll in the sack which was fun. My current g/f and I are about to roll onto 3 years and she's really pressuring me about getting engaged, is needy, possesive, and demanding to name a few of her better traits. My best friend is also getting increasingly sick of her.

I'm stuck feeling about what's best for me, just like you. Just find your way, surround yourself with good friends, take a trip and visit people. Gotta keep your mind off it. If you absolutly can't live without her, then go fight for her. You gotta make that decision though, cuz she won't make it for you or she'll just make your life hell, intentionally or unintentionally.

icewatersoda · 01-11-2007, 04:56 PM

whores

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Juggs Bavarian Motor Werks Fanatic 156 Rep 245 Posts Drives: BMW 325i sport Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Dallas iTrader: (1)	how do you get over a serious ex girlfriend? i was with this girl for 4 years, thought i was going to marry her. turns out she was getting extremely possessive and didnt want to wait to get married ( i wanted her to finish up with nursing school before asking her the question). she got defensive so i let her go. a few weeks goes by, we talk off and on, and recently she got very ill with a kidney infection. i was going to bring her dinner to her apartment but she kept saying no no, shes not up to it. Turns out she's dating some "pretty boy" now and her friends gave me the low down that even though she was saying she wanted to work things out with me, she doesnt want to. So now i need to completely put her out of my mind, buts its really hard. how do you get over someone? I'm going out on a date tonight with this girl i've known for a while, but im not like "excited" about it, i miss my ex
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Viral Major 41 Rep 1,003 Posts Drives: '06 330i Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: NYC/T.O. iTrader: (1)	it's a tough situation, but unfortunately there is no real answer. It will take a combination of being strong, talking/surrounding yourself with those close to you, and maybe even getting out on some dates to see where your head is at. Good luck.........
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mayanh8 Second Lieutenant 20 Rep 221 Posts Drives: 2007 335i Coupe Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: DE iTrader: (0)	Get a hobby and keep yourself busy with it, but not too busy that it stops you from meeting the next girl.
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La Verdad Private First Class 8 Rep 144 Posts Drives: 2007 328i Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Ft. Lauderdale iTrader: (0)	take your best friend (code named: wing man) to a series of hot bars and clubs and 'go shopping'. anything to keep your mind off the old ex.
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BigO1120 3rd Degree 44 Rep 328 Posts Drives: 2007 Montego Blue 328xi Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Parsippany, NJ iTrader: (0)	I feel your pain my brotha! I was dating this girl for about 3 years and I thought she was the one...until one day I caught her holding hands with her best friend. Did I punch the guy in the face...nah! It turns out that once news spread that we broke up SO MANY girls came up to me telling me that they never liked the "BIATCH" and I ended up hooking up with so many of those girls. So for me...breaking up with her was the best thing that happened to me! So keep your head up my brotha!!! It's going to take some time to heal. Later down the road you might end up having some ex-sex but don't let it get any further then that! She F'd you over and that's the best playing card you have against her. If she comes crying to you just slap her over the face with your hairy bean bag and kick her to the curb! Play on playa...and keep that pimp hand STRONG!!!!
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BigO1120 3rd Degree 44 Rep 328 Posts Drives: 2007 Montego Blue 328xi Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Parsippany, NJ iTrader: (0)	Give the man some time...I'm sure the last thing he wants to do is look at the woman who just crushed him!
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MoreCowbell Lieutenant Colonel 535 Rep 1,702 Posts Drives: 24 i5M60 23 X740 23 Vette Z06 Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Westchester, NY iTrader: (0)	It's a tough thing. I've been there. You think for a while, there is absolutely nobody out there who can compare to your ex. And then, one day, when you least expect it, you find that one person who makes your ex look feeble. Trust me, it'll happen.
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herbz hi 98 Rep 837 Posts Drives: '86 325e Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: outside boston MA iTrader: (0)	by being depressed about it, all you're doing is letting HER win. one of my most important rules in life is this: NEVER EVER EVER love a girl that doesn't love you back. my advice to you is this: grow a pair of balls, there are billions of women on this planet. she doesn't love you. she's not "the one" you thought she was. FORGET about her. sounds harsh, yes, but the typical emo psychiatrist remarks don't work. the only thing that works is to be a man about it. you don't wanna end up like this *** do you? http://keltarking.livejournal.com/ <---- just some random "livejournal" page i found with probably THE biggest bitch of a man i've ever seen in my life as the author
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MoreCowbell Lieutenant Colonel 535 Rep 1,702 Posts Drives: 24 i5M60 23 X740 23 Vette Z06 Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Westchester, NY iTrader: (0)	Two Words: RUB & TUG
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darkcloud Colonel 359 Rep 2,385 Posts Drives: 09 VW JSW Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: cleveland, oh iTrader: (2) Garage List 2006 325i [0.00]	Sorry to hear bro. Last major g/f I had I broke up with her so I didn't have the sudden detachment feelings. It sucked, but we did have the occasional roll in the sack which was fun. My current g/f and I are about to roll onto 3 years and she's really pressuring me about getting engaged, is needy, possesive, and demanding to name a few of her better traits. My best friend is also getting increasingly sick of her. I'm stuck feeling about what's best for me, just like you. Just find your way, surround yourself with good friends, take a trip and visit people. Gotta keep your mind off it. If you absolutly can't live without her, then go fight for her. You gotta make that decision though, cuz she won't make it for you or she'll just make your life hell, intentionally or unintentionally. __________________ retired 06 E90 325i New: 09 VW Platinum Grey Jetta Sportwagen 2.0T SEL w/DSG, panoramic sunroof and Ipod adapter
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