[Main33vnt]

Look guys... I was dating a chick for like almost 4 years... We were on and off from 11th grade till 7 months ago... I’m almost 21 so yea... Look I’m not the type who goes emotional and stuff I just keep my stuff inside but I really need advice.... I finally talked to her after 7 months because she tries ignoring me and stuff not in a sense that she doesn’t like me in a sense that she knows if she sees me or hears my voice she’s going to fall for me again... We broke up because her pops was stupid in the head and basically went and forged the moms signature took money out of the bank and throw divorce papers on the table which caused the mom to go bankrupt... she went crazy... They put there house up for sale and nobody’s purchased it but she always needs to go to court and watch her mom suffer....anyway lets keep that short...we broke up mutually I guess and this last 7 months I had a blast trying to forget about her... I met model chicks I did everything a College guy wants to do.... and the last two nights we talked and Basically I saw a side of me I haven’t seen since my Grandpa and Grandma passed away..

she keeps saying she’s over me but she loves me and shit but she brings the past up when we were in high school how I fucked her over w/e... basically everything we broke up in at high school and got back together graduation day... I don’t know... We went two years after that and she still trips on random shit… I know she loves me but she doesn’t have the balls to face me but I know if I See her sparks will fly again... You guys suggest me doing something to see her? I used to take her out and whenever we would reach the elevator of the parking lot I would act like I forgot something go under my seat and pull out a rose and put it on her seat so when we got back I can just see her smile loll... I don’t want to sound whipped or anything but this girl was something for me man... We had big roads and now that we've grown older she’s trying to do everything to forget about me... Guys I tried bro believe me... I got to see another side of this world being free but none of these girls do it for me man... I even lost my mind and went and bought a Range to get her out of it but it still dint work loll... Help me get her to be my passenger in my car Ladies and Gentleman... Or at least slap me in sense I don’t know stressful day... and I have a test and my moms fucken getting surgery on friday which shes keeps saying stupid stuff like If I dont wake up take care of your dad and sister etc.

[MoreCowbell]

Originally Posted by Main33vnt

Look guys... I was dating a chick for like almost 4 years... We were on and off from 11th grade till 7 months ago... I’m almost 21 so yea... Look I’m not the type who goes emotional and stuff I just keep my stuff inside but I really need advice.... I finally talked to her after 7 months because she tries ignoring me and stuff not in a sense that she doesn’t like me in a sense that she knows if she sees me or hears my voice she’s going to fall for me again... We broke up because her pops was stupid in the head and basically went and forged the moms signature took money out of the bank and throw divorce papers on the table which caused the mom to go bankrupt... she went crazy... They put there house up for sale and nobody’s purchased it but she always needs to go to court and watch her mom suffer....anyway lets keep that short...we broke up mutually I guess and this last 7 months I had a blast trying to forget about her... I met model chicks I did everything a College guy wants to do.... and the last two nights we talked and Basically I saw a side of me I haven’t seen since my Grandpa and Grandma passed away..

she keeps saying she’s over me but she loves me and shit but she brings the past up when we were in high school how I fucked her over w/e... basically everything we broke up in at high school and got back together graduation day... I don’t know... We went two years after that and she still trips on random shit… I know she loves me but she doesn’t have the balls to face me but I know if I See her sparks will fly again... You guys suggest me doing something to see her? I used to take her out and whenever we would reach the elevator of the parking lot I would act like I forgot something go under my seat and pull out a rose and put it on her seat so when we got back I can just see her smile loll... I don’t want to sound whipped or anything but this girl was something for me man... We had big roads and now that we've grown older she’s trying to do everything to forget about me... Guys I tried bro believe me... I got to see another side of this world being free but none of these girls do it for me man... I even lost my mind and went and bought a Range to get her out of it but it still dint work loll... Help me get her to be my passenger in my car Ladies and Gentleman... Or at least slap me in sense I don’t know stressful day... and I have a test and my moms fucken getting surgery on friday which shes keeps saying stupid stuff like If I dont wake up take care of your dad and sister etc.

Go to a Strip Club, send her a Picture message of a couple of titties and the messge "DROP DEAD".

Problem solved.

[MoreCowbell]

Originally Posted by MoreCowbell

Go to a Strip Club, send her a Picture message of a couple of titties and the messge "DROP DEAD".

Problem solved.

Just kidding.

Seriously...I know it sounds trite and cliche', but..."Just Follow Your Heart Man!!!"

Good luck.

[Enjoiyourlife]

yep. fuck that shit. forget about her. she's fucking someone else. believe me. same shit went down with my recent ex. she wasnt in a good mental state cuz of all that family shit and be broke up b/c of it. just do your thing and forget about her. it sucks to hear it but its true. save yourself dude. you shouldnt have to save her. have fun man.. you're young. don't waste your youth on a girl.. i did for so long and it got nowhere b/c she wasn't ready. jay z said it best man "i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one"

yeah i hate to sound like the bad guy here bro but let it go.... you cant force things ..maybe things will work out in the future.

[Main33vnt]

LOL I got you boss... but this si the thing ... her best friend is on my homies nuts so I get everythign out of her... all she does all day is go to work at Victorias Secret go to school and play with her puppy... shes a good girl man shes very sensitive and like I poped her cherry so I mean for sure shes not gonna bone till shes probably married.. she changed to good and thats what I think is making me want her back... Its like I did all my shit but she just sat around I trip on that.. She doesnt drink she doesnt smoke... shes cool man you know? Wifey shit.

[Enjoiyourlife]

lol........ if you're ready to wife it up then do your thing! good luck bro.

[Sal@AUTOcouture]

Stop being selfish and give her space. She has alot of shit going on and probably doesn't need anymore responsibility (ie. needy boyfriend). Trust me, give her space and time. Tell her that you UNDERSTAND and that if she needs anything not to hesitate to contact you.

Don't be pushy. If it will be it will be.

It's going to be difficult, but its how its gotta be, homie.

[Main33vnt]

Originally Posted by AutoCouture

Stop being selfish and give her space. She has alot of shit going on and probably doesn't need anymore responsibility (ie. needy boyfriend). Trust me, give her space and time. Tell her that you UNDERSTAND and that if she needs anything not to hesitate to contact you.

Don't be pushy. If it will be it will be.

It's going to be difficult, but its how its gotta be, homie.

Thats the thing though... shit has cooled down.. the dad is back home with them and there trying to buy the hosue back since nobody put offeres... shes normal and happy again thats why I dont know wtf to do... like it gets to me that this girl just did a complete 180 spin on the world let alone on me...

[nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn]

Has she been contacting you? Or have you been contacting her?

[Main33vnt]

Both I guess... but nothing for the last few months... bottom line guys this is my question.. its eating me inside so should I just man up and surprise her at a place where I know all see her or do I just let it go... people can talk through online and email the way they want to but when its face to face its a whole different ball game.. .sorry for annoying you guys I'm just trying to get this off my chest... I hate this kiddish shit... yet I feel like I'm trapped in it

[PLAYON]

sounds tough brotha. . .I know where you're coming from. . .go get her back! F*ck getting over her. . .get her back and be with her.

[m2kev]

Seems odd, I thought dating other girls would help you. It did for me, shoot I got over my ex fairly quickly! Maybe even before I broke up with her (I didn't cheat, if thats what it sounds like) thats because we weren't meant to be. Just like the other post above, go with your heart - just don't become desperate!

[silvergray545]

if shes really the one you like tell her what you just told us, its will make her change her mind

[achien]

give it a try, otherwise, you will regret this for the rest of your life.

I never regret the chicks I go after, but I always regret the ones I passed-over.

Originally Posted by Main33vnt

Both I guess... but nothing for the last few months... bottom line guys this is my question.. its eating me inside so should I just man up and surprise her at a place where I know all see her or do I just let it go... people can talk through online and email the way they want to but when its face to face its a whole different ball game.. .sorry for annoying you guys I'm just trying to get this off my chest... I hate this kiddish shit... yet I feel like I'm trapped in it

[Couch]

Walk away. If yall have been dating for 4 years, but it's constantly been on and off then that would make a shitty as marriage. Especially if she keeps flip flopping.

Move on, but it sounds like it may be a good idea to remain friends. Sounds like her family may be a bit out there.

[UltimateBMW]

Don't get back with her. Move on. If after 4 years you both are playing little games then it's not worth it to return. And even if you get back together it won't be like it was for the last 4 years. Things change, circumstances change, and you will always be expecting the same thing that you had in the past.

Get a new girl and move on. Let her see some space and air. Maybe after you guys have been apart for a while and let your heads clear you can return to it and try once more. But right now you need to chill out.

[UltimateBMW]

Originally Posted by achien

give it a try, otherwise, you will regret this for the rest of your life.

I never regret the chicks I go after, but I always regret the ones I passed-over.

This isn't some girl at a bar that he spotted that looks good. He has history with this girl. This isn't a now or never situation. Not going after her now isn't going to be a regret, since he knows her so well. It's really not a missed opportunity.

[UltimateBMW]

I'll also say, the more you go over this in your own head. The more it will become warped. When you dwell on things you manipulate them in your own mind and it rarely ever is for the better.

[achien]

If he doesn't try, he will keep "thinking" in his head.

If it doesn't work out, move on. At least you will stop "messing" around your head.

Originally Posted by UltimateBMW

This isn't some girl at a bar that he spotted that looks good. He has history with this girl. This isn't a now or never situation. Not going after her now isn't going to be a regret, since he knows her so well. It's really not a missed opportunity.

Originally Posted by UltimateBMW

I'll also say, the more you go over this in your own head. The more it will become warped. When you dwell on things you manipulate them in your own mind and it rarely ever is for the better.

[famicom]

just be VERY thankful you dont have kids with this woman. or do you?
if not, the world is in the palm of your hands.

no kids, no marriage, shoot man... there are way too many females 2 choose. i say go ahead and try with her and at the same time keep contacts with other females. the other females are like your emergency spill kit.

join 24 hour fitness. slam weights, eat good, go club/bar with cool friends and enjoy your e9x

[EZ_TUR90]

Sounds like some girl problems I had. What to do? Just take this girl out to a quite dinner and talk shit out. Give her space and don't force yourself to get into the whole bf/gf shit. Take shit one step at a time. Take is slow and see how shit works out. If your still having the same problems, then its a waist to try anymore. I mean how much can you try to get shit worked out. Its sucks to say but it doesn't seem like she has interest in getting into any relationships. You've done your part its time to see if she will do hers. Wish every things OK with your mom, and good luck with your test, and girl!!!

[Main33vnt]

You guys are the shit... I stopped talking to her till she called me and were basically just being friends... had a crazy weekend hooked up with a chick and her best friend at the same time so yea... she still calls me and instant messages me acting like nothing ever happened but out of nowhere jumps back to her bipolar mood... anyway gentleman thanks for making me calm down I finally did what ever man wanted to do... 2 chicks 1 e90 ;]