First World Problems

Revartr · 05-07-2015, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Douche

And yet you had sex.

I think she had second thoughts.

And now she may want to understand what it meant.

Maybe you're right, give it a couple of days, and then talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel. If it's a match, you'll agree to cool off for a while and then come back as friends. She may also be distancing herself because she may think you want something she doesn't. So you may calm her down when you tell her what you want, and remain friends.

Gotta tell you though: never seen it happen. And I've seen my fair share.

Well, we were talking about it that morning, and both of us were just like, "Well, it was bound to happen eventually." and "Next time it happens, blah blah blah." and laughing about it. But we talked like it was going to happen again. She sent a couple of nudes to me over text on the car ride to drop her off. The night it happened, she had drunkenly taken a picture of me going down on her and sent it to one of her friends, so her and I were laughing our asses off about it that morning when she saw and making jokes about it.

It's just so weird because everything was fine that morning, and now it's not. :| Blegh.

And I was thinking that she may think that I want something more too, so she very well might be relieved when I tell her that I don't want to cuff or anything, just be friends. But yeah, I'm going to do that. I'll try just texting her and acting like everything's normal, but if she still is acting like this by Sunday, I'll just come out and ask what's going on. Thanks for the advice, I do appreciate it, haha.

Douche · 05-07-2015, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Revartr

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Originally Posted by Douche

And yet you had sex.

I think she had second thoughts.

And now she may want to understand what it meant.

Maybe you're right, give it a couple of days, and then talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel. If it's a match, you'll agree to cool off for a while and then come back as friends. She may also be distancing herself because she may think you want something she doesn't. So you may calm her down when you tell her what you want, and remain friends.

Gotta tell you though: never seen it happen. And I've seen my fair share.

Well, we were talking about it that morning, and both of us were just like, "Well, it was bound to happen eventually." and "Next time it happens, blah blah blah." and laughing about it. But we talked like it was going to happen again. She sent a couple of nudes to me over text on the car ride to drop her off. The night it happened, she had drunkenly taken a picture of me going down on her and sent it to one of her friends, so her and I were laughing our asses off about it that morning when she saw and making jokes about it.

It's just so weird because everything was fine that morning, and now it's not. :| Blegh.

And I was thinking that she may think that I want something more too, so she very well might be relieved when I tell her that I don't want to cuff or anything, just be friends. But yeah, I'm going to do that. I'll try just texting her and acting like everything's normal, but if she still is acting like this by Sunday, I'll just come out and ask what's going on. Thanks for the advice, I do appreciate it, haha.

What the hell dude. I couldn't read all of it...

Also... Quit talking about pictures you can't prove exist.

Douche · 05-07-2015, 05:33 PM

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And yet you had sex.

I think she had second thoughts.

And now she may want to understand what it meant.

Maybe you're right, give it a couple of days, and then talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel. If it's a match, you'll agree to cool off for a while and then come back as friends. She may also be distancing herself because she may think you want something she doesn't. So you may calm her down when you tell her what you want, and remain friends.

Gotta tell you though: never seen it happen. And I've seen my fair share.

Well, we were talking about it that morning, and both of us were just like, "Well, it was bound to happen eventually." and "Next time it happens, blah blah blah." and laughing about it. But we talked like it was going to happen again. She sent a couple of nudes to me over text on the car ride to drop her off. The night it happened, she had drunkenly taken a picture of me going down on her and sent it to one of her friends, so her and I were laughing our asses off about it that morning when she saw and making jokes about it.

It's just so weird because everything was fine that morning, and now it's not. :| Blegh.

And I was thinking that she may think that I want something more too, so she very well might be relieved when I tell her that I don't want to cuff or anything, just be friends. But yeah, I'm going to do that. I'll try just texting her and acting like everything's normal, but if she still is acting like this by Sunday, I'll just come out and ask what's going on. Thanks for the advice, I do appreciate it, haha.

What the hell dude. I couldn't read all of it...

Also... Quit talking about pictures you can't prove exist.

I read it all now...
You guys are "different" eh. I'm not used to this... Lol

Revartr · 05-07-2015, 05:55 PM

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I read it all now...
You guys are "different" eh. I'm not used to this... Lol

She's VERY different from your average girl, which is something I love about her. She's super fun to be around and really chill to just hangout with. Like, the type of girl that you can just be real with, talk to/with about literally anything, and just chill, drink/smoke with, eat junk food, and play video games and talk shit with. We go out and do stuff together all the time too. And we always go to each other for advice and stuff.

So yeah, you can kind of see why I'd really hate to lose her as a friend, haha.

GB-335xiCoupe · 05-07-2015, 06:42 PM

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Whatever happened to the Second World? I mean we have first world and third world... WTF. I will work on this problem and report back.

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They wear blue collars to work, no?

No, that's Detroit. Which I believe is Third World.

GB-335xiCoupe · 05-07-2015, 06:51 PM

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She's VERY different from your average girl, which is something I love about her. She's super fun to be around and really chill to just hangout with. Like, the type of girl that you can just be real with, talk to/with about literally anything, and just chill, drink/smoke with, eat junk food, and play video games and talk shit with. We go out and do stuff together all the time too. And we always go to each other for advice and stuff.

So yeah, you can kind of see why I'd really hate to lose her as a friend, haha.

Dude, solution is to send her a link to this thread. Simple. Next problem?

bimmette · 05-07-2015, 09:03 PM

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Hey man, it seems you're the chick in the couple. Think about it. You mentioned a lot how she's upfront and vocal etc.

What did she reply when you told her how you feel and asked her if there was something different caused by the drunken sex?

Oh yeah, she's definitely the dude in this situation, haha. Unless she's just not talking to me because she started catching feelings or something and is trying to distance herself to keep that from happening (what a female friend of mine told me could be the case), but I have no idea.

Like I added in my previous post (after you had already responded, though), the next morning she was asking me about certain parts that she didn't remember. We were just talking about it and joking around about it and talking shit about other stuff like we normally do.

And I haven't asked her anything like that yet. This is literally the only conversation that we've had since I dropped her off Monday morning (see screenshot).

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You keep saying she's a total bro.

If you were both really that drunk, then maybe her penis was hiding and it came out and you just don't remember it. Especially if she is that "sore." I mean, was she sore in the butt? You'd need to PIITB if she was hiding a weiner down there...

I've seen her naked plenty of times, so I'm pretty positive that there is no penis to speak of, haha.

Sure, but if she's that straightforward and you guys are so close, she should be able to tell you that she's distancing herself to disallow the feelings to grow.

This is what Bimmette is doing to me right now. But I love her too much to let that go.

So, like me, you have to decide if you want to let it go and just be friends (so allow some space for a while until you guys cool off), or keep investing in it until she comes clean and says she feels the same towards you and wants a relationship. That's my strategy with Bimmette too.

The part of you being a chick is a joke. Everybody has feelings but wanting to know what's going on because you're confused is normal. Talk to her.

It's difficult to have sex and disengage completely. This is why women don't like to sleep around. Especially with a good friend. She may be trying to figure out if what she feels is friendship or something else.

Revartr

Except for the part about me, Douche is right. I think your friendship is screwed.

Douche · 05-07-2015, 09:27 PM

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Hey man, it seems you're the chick in the couple. Think about it. You mentioned a lot how she's upfront and vocal etc.

What did she reply when you told her how you feel and asked her if there was something different caused by the drunken sex?

Oh yeah, she's definitely the dude in this situation, haha. Unless she's just not talking to me because she started catching feelings or something and is trying to distance herself to keep that from happening (what a female friend of mine told me could be the case), but I have no idea.

Like I added in my previous post (after you had already responded, though), the next morning she was asking me about certain parts that she didn't remember. We were just talking about it and joking around about it and talking shit about other stuff like we normally do.

And I haven't asked her anything like that yet. This is literally the only conversation that we've had since I dropped her off Monday morning (see screenshot).

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Originally Posted by Templar

You keep saying she's a total bro.

If you were both really that drunk, then maybe her penis was hiding and it came out and you just don't remember it. Especially if she is that "sore." I mean, was she sore in the butt? You'd need to PIITB if she was hiding a weiner down there...

I've seen her naked plenty of times, so I'm pretty positive that there is no penis to speak of, haha.

Sure, but if she's that straightforward and you guys are so close, she should be able to tell you that she's distancing herself to disallow the feelings to grow.

This is what Bimmette is doing to me right now. But I love her too much to let that go.

So, like me, you have to decide if you want to let it go and just be friends (so allow some space for a while until you guys cool off), or keep investing in it until she comes clean and says she feels the same towards you and wants a relationship. That's my strategy with Bimmette too.

The part of you being a chick is a joke. Everybody has feelings but wanting to know what's going on because you're confused is normal. Talk to her.

It's difficult to have sex and disengage completely. This is why women don't like to sleep around. Especially with a good friend. She may be trying to figure out if what she feels is friendship or something else.

Revartr

Except for the part about me, Douche is right. I think your friendship is screwed.

PM me.

UncleWede · 05-08-2015, 12:34 AM

Can't believe I'm first with that

Billup · 05-08-2015, 07:53 AM

Thread is useless. So many women problems. Rev, stop being an overthinking wanker and just let shit pan out on its own. You done stuff, now things are a little different, let it be. Go find some strange and you'll forget all about it, she'll see you with a woman, and then she'll want you.

My FWP:
So I went around and collected "used inserts" from the Hydromat operators. I looked through them all, and I found about 15 inserts that looked like either only one side was used, or neither side was used (Clearly, they are double edged tools). I took the best 5 I could find, stuck them in a new box, brought it to the operator and said "Hey, I got this special lot of inserts that I made some changes on, I'm not sure how well they'll work, but could you put them in and see how they run, I have a test log for the life".

It's been about 3 hours now. The inserts they are throwing out have been perfectly good. Management bitches at me because they spend so much money on tooling..., well this is why. Fucking twats.

bimmette · 05-08-2015, 09:53 AM

@revartr and @billup need to be using the FML thread, not FWP!

http://f30.bimmerpost.com/forums/sho...d.php?t=864229

upstatedoc · 05-08-2015, 09:55 AM

ahh, to be 23 again..

Alfisti · 05-08-2015, 10:08 AM

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ahh, to be 23 again..

This. At the time you think this stuff actually matters, then you're suddenly 38 and you realise how stupid it all was.

Billup · 05-08-2015, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by bimmette

@revartr and @billup need to be using the FML thread, not FWP!

http://f30.bimmerpost.com/forums/sho...d.php?t=864229

DON'T YOU TRY AND COME TELL ME HOW TO LIVE MY LIFE!

Fine, my other FWP is that I need to fire my cleaning lady. She didn't clean the vag juice off my sheets from the other night, when I specifically said my sheets need to be washed. And no, I am not going to wash my own sheets. Now I need to try and find someone I trust to not steal my shit all over again.

bimmette · 05-08-2015, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by bimmette

@revartr and @billup need to be using the FML thread, not FWP!

http://f30.bimmerpost.com/forums/sho...d.php?t=864229

DON'T YOU TRY AND COME TELL ME HOW TO LIVE MY LIFE!

Revartr · 05-08-2015, 11:00 AM

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Revartr

Except for the part about me, Douche is right. I think your friendship is screwed.

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Originally Posted by Billup

Thread is useless. So many women problems. Rev, stop being an overthinking wanker and just let shit pan out on its own. You done stuff, now things are a little different, let it be. Go find some strange and you'll forget all about it, she'll see you with a woman, and then she'll want you.

I just want my friend to talk to me again.

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Originally Posted by Alfisti

This. At the time you think this stuff actually matters, then you're suddenly 38 and you realise how stupid it all was.

FRIENDSHIP MATTERS

Revartr · 05-08-2015, 11:04 AM

BUT ANYWAYS, I'm done bitching. If it continues to be like this, I'll confront her about it. If not, then whatever problem that was there fixed itself.

Back to other people's FWPs.

Alfisti · 05-08-2015, 11:30 AM

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FRIENDSHIP MATTERS

it's not a friendship if you're having sex, makes no sense at all. Before you know it you'll have a job, a mortgage, retirement funding, looking after ageing parents and kids to worry about .... this will seem like small-fry.

M_Six · 05-08-2015, 01:56 PM

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Now I need to try and find someone I trust to not steal my shit all over again.

You mean she stole it all once already?

Billup · 05-08-2015, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by M_Six

You mean she stole it all once already?

Cleaning lady before her stole a few of my items when I was out of town.

Poor way of wording it. Should have said "I now need to, again, go through the process of finding someone I hope will not steal my belongings."

upstatedoc · 05-08-2015, 02:14 PM

Every time my 6 year old says "Anderson hit me two times or this happened two times" I say "twice" and he looks at me funny and keeps whining.

M_Six · 05-08-2015, 04:32 PM

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Every time my 6 year old says "Anderson hit me two times or this happened two times" I say "twice" and he looks at me funny and keeps whining.

#ParentalWorldProblem

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Billup Banned 476 Rep 928 Posts Drives: Your mum crazy. Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Baconopolos Island iTrader: (0)	Thread is useless. So many women problems. Rev, stop being an overthinking wanker and just let shit pan out on its own. You done stuff, now things are a little different, let it be. Go find some strange and you'll forget all about it, she'll see you with a woman, and then she'll want you. My FWP: So I went around and collected "used inserts" from the Hydromat operators. I looked through them all, and I found about 15 inserts that looked like either only one side was used, or neither side was used (Clearly, they are double edged tools). I took the best 5 I could find, stuck them in a new box, brought it to the operator and said "Hey, I got this special lot of inserts that I made some changes on, I'm not sure how well they'll work, but could you put them in and see how they run, I have a test log for the life". It's been about 3 hours now. The inserts they are throwing out have been perfectly good. Management bitches at me because they spend so much money on tooling..., well this is why. Fucking twats.
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Revartr Second Lieutenant 75 Rep 296 Posts Drives: 2015 BMW M4 Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: Cleveland, TN iTrader: (0)	BUT ANYWAYS, I'm done bitching. If it continues to be like this, I'll confront her about it. If not, then whatever problem that was there fixed itself. Back to other people's FWPs.
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upstatedoc I'll get back to you 7541 Rep 2,132 Posts Drives: blue streak Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: not downstate iTrader: (2)	Every time my 6 year old says "Anderson hit me two times or this happened two times" I say "twice" and he looks at me funny and keeps whining. __________________ 2018 Stinger GT 2009 E90 N51 /Active Autowerke Stage 2 tune/BMW Performance Exhaust/ Countermeasure enthusiast.
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