[KingOfJericho]

Very sorry for your loss.

[F30lolz]

Belgium, I am so sorry for your loss

[Delta0311]

Wow sorry to hear that brother.. Nothing I can say to make the grief go away but hang in there bro.. Again sorry for your loss and I wish you and your family the best.

[CANGRKE70]

Hey Philippe, there is a Greek saying that I've had to unfortunately say more often this last year, but it reminds us to think of the good times we had with the person. Zoi se sas, na ton thimaste - Life to you, may you remember him. Travel well Lucien!

[Lups]

Originally Posted by CANGRKE70

Hey Philippe, there is a Greek saying that I've had to unfortunately say more often this last year, but it reminds us to think of the good times we had with the person. Zoi se sas, na ton thimaste - Life to you, may you remember him. Travel well Lucien!

I love this, I've always imagined a person dying only after they have been forgotten, not when the heart stops.

I've lost everyone I've ever loved, besides the family I've created. At the end of the most horrible loss I've lost my living family too but I've learned one thing in the last 5 years I value more than anything before that time.

Someone smarter than me said a long ago that it is better to love and lose than to never love at all. As stupid as it sounds, it is a perfect sentence and at the times ive been bitter and angry at the world, or sleepless with nightmares because of my personal history, I thought of it a lot.

I wouldn't trade the rough times nor the hells I've been through. The only thing I fear nowadays is turning so cold I couldn't love again. As a testimony to the people who has formed my heart, that is the best thing I can say.

I'm sorry Phil for your loss, but in time you'll realize how much you gained from him and you will take him forward and keep him alive.

A human life is short and unpredictable. Their influence in us is what moves the world.

[kent11202]

If I may add my heartfelt condolences on your loss. If I may, I'd like to ad to what Lups posted about better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

There's another saying - Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

[UglyBuzzard]

Sorry for your loss. Best wishes for you, family, and friends...

[RickFLM4]

Very sorry for your loss, Philippe. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

[leopard print]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and yours.

I don't mean to turn it around and make things about me, but I'm writing this while sitting in the hospital next to my father. He's been in and out for a a little over a year now and in pretty rough shape. I know what you're going/went through. It's tough, but hang in there.

[Mike.]

ah fuck. Sorry man

[///M Power-Belgium]

Update about my deceased father Lucien.

The last 2 days were really busy..

1-I had to remove my fathers personal things out of his room in the hospital .
2-Papers of decease , ID ,papers of bank accounts .
3-Arrange the priest and fix the papers for the funeral .
4-I bought (ordered) flowers and for my mother also.
My mother is really exhausted and sick (she got a cold and lost her voice + lack of sleep)
5-Went to the cardiologist for papers of decease.
6-Went to the funerarium for the planning of the funeral .
7- I had to choose and bought a coffin for my father ....God Dammit that was a real shock.....Oughh !!!
That felt like someone squeesed my throat and I had a hard time to continue with the conversation and thought God please help me !
8- Inform with a lot of phone calls,mails , mourning letters...My family, friends, neighbours and colleagues .
9-Went today twice to the funerarium for the prayers in front of the coffin from 1-2/7-8 PM .
He got a lot of beautiful flowers and I saw a lot of people , and the organisation of the funerarium was outstanding !


The problem is I'm only child and so everything falls on my shoulders .
Tomorrow , Saturday 12/3/2016 .. 2-PM , The funeral ,the graveyard and the coffee table .
Oughhh ..

-Philippe .

[grimlock]

Hang in there, Phil. He is watching you from above.

[Lups]

Originally Posted by ///M Power-Belgium

Update about my deceased father Lucien.

The last 2 days were really busy..

1-I had to remove my fathers personal things out of his room in the hospital .
2-Papers of decease , ID ,papers of bank accounts .
3-Arrange the priest and fix the papers for the funeral .
4-I bought (ordered) flowers and for my mother also.
My mother is really exhausted and sick (she got a cold and lost her voice + lack of sleep)
5-Went to the cardiologist for papers of decease.
6-Went to the funerarium for the planning of the funeral .
7- I had to choose and bought a coffin for my father ....God Dammit that was a real shock.....Oughh !!!
That felt like someone squeesed my throat and I had a hard time to continue with the conversation and thought God please help me !
8- Inform with a lot of phone calls,mails , mourning letters...My family, friends, neighbours and colleagues .
9-Went today twice to the funerarium for the prayers in front of the coffin from 1-2/7-8 PM .
He got a lot of beautiful flowers and I saw a lot of people , and the organisation of the funerarium was outstanding !


The problem is I'm only child and so everything falls on my shoulders .
Tomorrow , Saturday 12/3/2016 .. 2-PM , The funeral ,the graveyard and the coffee table .
Oughhh ..

-Philippe .

I know.
If you need to talk, you know how to contact me.

Remember that he died, but you live. Remember that in your memories, he lives.

I'm truly sorry Philippe, it is a rough ride.

[Daftasabrush]

I know we don't know each other but I (think) I completely understand what you're going through. This may read a bit self indulgent but that's not the goal.

My father died of cancer after a relatively brief battle 6 years ago, to my mother, he was everything, she was hopeless without him. He understood everything, he sorted everything, he was very well respected in his field and no one could say a bad word about him.

Whilst I have a sibling, I had to handle everything (death certificates, will etc) because no one else could. I effectively became the man of the family overnight. (one grandfather passing shortly before my father's death and one shortly after).

The next few weeks were tough, horribly so. I then realised my mother had changed quite significantly (and not just stricken with grief, despite doctors saying it was this). After several trips to the doctors I convinced them to do an MRI which revealed she had a brain tumour which was blocking drainage of cerebral fluid and there was now more fluid than brain in her head. They operated twice, in the space of 48 hours and almost instantly she was back to normal. I'm still not convinced she's ok (but scans says she is), and she certainly misses my father on a daily basis (as do all of us tbh). A few weeks later, after dealing with my father's estate, I found my best friend lying dead, naked on his bathroom floor after he'd failed to manage his diabetes.

This was a terrible year for me, I'm sure there are other ways it could have gone worse, but at the time it really didn't seem like it.

Now to my point (sorry it took so long). That year was monumentally shit, in every foreseeable way (I crashed my cars 4 times as well), but I came out of it ok. My family (what remains) is well, my friends (I've made several new ones) are fantastic, my new family is amazing, I'm getting married this year and work has improved dramatically. There's days where I wish I could tell my father what I'd done that day, what I'd achieved, talk about cars etc, but I can't, and to be honest, it's just one of those things. Everyone says time is a great healer and I agree to some degree, but I don't think it heals. It softens the blow and as time goes on I can look back on that year without crying (mostly). It will never heal it though, that will always be a memory of dire circumstance and nothing will ever fix that.

Cling on to the dear memories you hold, look after and love your family and don't let it eat away at you. Distractions can be great but don't let them stop you grieving and don't feel bad for doing so. Everyone grieves in their own way and you can't do it wrong. Personally I pretty much spent the entire year high as a kite - I don't recommend it, but it worked for me.

Good luck Philippe, RIP Lucien and trust me, it *will* get better.

[jtodd_fl]

Philippe. Remember that all of this is almost over. When it is, take the time you need to grieve with your mother and don't worry about anything else. Don't worry if you cannot answer every letter. Don't worry if you cannot tell everyone what is happening. After the funeral day, your only responsibility is to yourself and your mother. Take care of yourself. It will get easier, and as Lups says, he will live on forever in the minds and hearts of the lives he touched.

[Shredicus]

Jeez man, so sorry to hear this. My sincere condolences and I wish you and your family well during this difficult time.

[EstorilM]

So sorry for you loss
My thoughts are with you and your family!

[Ragged Edge]

My heart goes out to you, Philippe, and your mum at this difficult time.

[Dackelone]

So sad to read this thread. Our thoughts & prayers are with you and your family, Philippe.

[vsix]

I'm really sad to hear these devastating news.
Philippe, please accept my deepest condolences to you and your family.

I believe that we all will see us again one day, when this halluzination in that we are living in is over.

[Cattivo]

My condolences go out to you and your family brother

[1LRM3]

Phil, checking in on you sir and hoping that you and mom are managing through these truly difficult days.... your peanut gallery is still here and will support you. Breathe. Eat. Sleep. Breathe.