[Murf the Surf]

Originally Posted by Fishee

Dealing with my dad, who is in... early-mid stages of dementia.
He's starting to become destructive around my parents' house, including last week accidentally setting fire to the living room sofa. The worst part is, he's incredibly defensive or dismissive of his actions as related to the damage caused by his behaviour.

I think the defensiveness is a result of some portion of the brain feeling shame and embarrassment, but it's unable to deal with the hard emotions of admitting that his hands-on fixing and building skills, something that he prided himself on, are no longer there. As a result, in many situations when people avoid hard emotions, they project defensiveness and anger, when truly they're dealing with sadness, worry and grief.

I'm afraid you're in for a tough time. We ended up getting in-home care which was very expensive. Shelly was an angel, she took great care of Bill until we could get him into long term care. Good luck and peace.

[M_Six]

Originally Posted by Fishee

Dealing with my dad, who is in... early-mid stages of dementia.
He's starting to become destructive around my parents' house, including last week accidentally setting fire to the living room sofa. The worst part is, he's incredibly defensive or dismissive of his actions as related to the damage caused by his behaviour.

I think the defensiveness is a result of some portion of the brain feeling shame and embarrassment, but it's unable to deal with the hard emotions of admitting that his hands-on fixing and building skills, something that he prided himself on, are no longer there. As a result, in many situations when people avoid hard emotions, they project defensiveness and anger, when truly they're dealing with sadness, worry and grief.

My Mom never got destructive, but she lost all filtering before saying stuff, so she'd say completely inappropriate things. But her most bizarre behavior was getting out of bed in the middle of the night and just standing in the living room. She wouldn't do anything. She'd just stand in one place looking around. I used to stay with her when she had an apartment near my sister's place. I'd be sleeping on the pull-out sofa bed and wake up to see her just standing there outside her bedroom. She did the same thing once she moved in with my sister. Eventually she had to be moved into long-term care and the staff there would tell us that she'd wander out of her room at night and just stand in the common area. It's still so hard to think about those days, knowing she was suffering and there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it.

[Pauly Wauly]

A beautiful sunset In sunny La Jolla, California.

The sun only sets in this exact position twice a year!

[M_Six]

PierHenge

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by M_Six

but she lost all filtering before saying stuff, so she'd say completely inappropriate things.

Didn't know you were related to cmyx6go


TRYING to make it a little lighter in here. I know the emotions are raw. Somewhat thankfully, the cancer got dad before he really went out of his mind. He told me a few time how devastated he was that he couldn't think properly before hospice, and my dad NEVER shared "feelings."

[Lady Jane]

I wonder if it will start on the first crank?

[Buug959]

VC

[M_Six]

I took this pic when Super Storm Sandy was ravaging the East Coast years ago. All we got were these cool cloud formations.

[eliphil]

Originally Posted by M_Six

I took this pic when Super Storm Sandy was ravaging the East Coast years ago. All we got were these cool cloud formations.

You are lucky my friend…… nice picture

[Mosaud1998]

[UncleWede]

Originally Posted by M_Six

I took this pic when Super Storm Sandy was ravaging the East Coast years ago. All we got were these cool cloud formations.

Quite the 3-d effect. I almost imagine myself in a torus around the sun, and the clouds are the other edge of the tube..

[Lady Jane]

From the world of science: Viper venom turning blood into jelly.

[Mosaud1998]

Rise and shine. Picture taken at 5:42 am CST.

[Lady Jane]

And now we pause for a Community Service announcement.

[Buug959]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

And now we pause for a Community Service announcement.



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An oldie but a goodie.

[Lady Jane]

[M_Six]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

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Probably contains a virus.

[JJ 911SC]

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[Lady Jane]

Where the astronauts go to drown their sorrows. Have you figured it out?

[M_Six]

Space Bar

[TKDbilly]

Great pics ... I think it is playing 'stairway to heaven'...

[chris_1001]

Originally Posted by Lady Jane

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Should have a note in it saying "we've been trying to reach you about your car warranty"...