[mylydiamy]

Originally Posted by ddk632

Freedom is priceless.
Hope you're enjoying it to the fullest, OP.

Yes I am. It's worth every penny of it though it still hurts to write a check every week

[ddk632]

I read the whole thread a while ago but forget if it's finite or lifetime? Hopefully it will come to an end for you, man. That's a big check to write for (virtually) anybody.

[mylydiamy]

Originally Posted by ddk632

I read the whole thread a while ago but forget if it's finite or lifetime? Hopefully it will come to an end for you, man. That's a big check to write for (virtually) anybody.

It will continue as long as I am alive, she is alive and she is single

[ddk632]

Oh man, I feel for you bud.
Complete BS. But that's a whole different discussion.
It actually makes me angry.

[elm3]

Reason I will never get married again. Bitches be crazy.

[Templar]

My soon to be had a little problem with cleaning stuff up from time to time. She'd leave old boxes out or paper out from stuff she was working on and the dogs would destroy it.

I grew a pair of balls and told her to stop leaving shit out all over the house. And voila, it stopped happening. Sometimes it just takes a little hard love. If that fails, then a divorce is in order most likely.

[Billup]

Originally Posted by Templar

Sometimes it just takes a little hard love.

Or a black eye might make her think twice.

[Templar]

Originally Posted by Billup

Or a black eye might make her think twice.

Nope. Don't want to leave visible marks.

That's why I said "hard" love.

[Billup]

It does get old when we go out and people ask how my girlfriend got a black eye.


I just tell them she's really been into "50 Shades of Grey" lately. Problem solved.

[Fifty3bags]

So if OP were to get remarried, he would have to pay alimony and still have to support his new wife/family (if said new wife was in same/worse financial situation)?

[Whostheboss]

Originally Posted by Fifty3bags

So if OP were to get remarried, he would have to pay alimony and still have to support his new wife/family (if said new wife was in same/worse financial situation)?

good question

[mylydiamy]

Originally Posted by Whostheboss

good question

Yes I do It will continue until either I die, or she dies, or she remarries...

[edirtaynine]

the system is all fucked up and run by equally fucked up lawyers and politicians.

to the OP - sorry to hear about your situation but glad to hear that you're still up and getting through it ok

[Whostheboss]

Originally Posted by edirtaynine

the system is all fucked up and run by equally fucked up lawyers and politicians.

to the OP - sorry to hear about your situation but glad to hear that you're still up and getting through it ok

Yes!!!!! now imagine being Black.

[Uber V8]

I think the current divorce rate for California has surpassed 60%. Quite astonishing odds.

It's a really bad gamble, but there's still hope for the ~40% women that have kept their sanity.

[ddk632]

I think the stats on divorce rates are actually kind of misleading. The stats on divorce look at for example, 2013 and say, there were X marriages, and Y divorces. Then they figure the divorce rate. However, the marriages that ended in 2013 started in lots of different prior years. The marriages which started in 2013 haven't ended yet, so they shouldn't be part of the statistic yet.

To understand a true divorce rate, one would need to track all the marriages from a particular year, sat every 5 years for 3 decades, to see how many are divorced at each interval. An average of this number from many "starting" years would yield an actual rate of divorce, taking into account the reliability decreases with each increasing year of date of marriage.

The marriages and divorces in one year have nothing to do with each other, so this number has no bearing on the real situation.

Further, marriages can end after 5, 10, 15, 20, or even 30 or more years. So the indicator of a successful marriage is a moving target.

It's also a known fact (sorry don't have a citation but the image in the post above states the same thing) that 2nd and 3rd marriages have even higher failure rates.

I only know one person in recent memory who had a marriage that was "successful". He died of cancer while still married. Therefore, according to the definition of marriage (till death do us part) his marriage was properly successful. Ironically, it was his third marriage.

Everyone who is still married and alive has a possibility to get divorced, and being in it even for 20 years doesn't get them out of the equation.

Therefore, it's not inconceivable that the real rate of divorce for first marriages is actually much higher than 50%.

[mylydiamy]

Originally Posted by m_sung

OMG her new boyfriend is enjoying your $$$, wtf man?

Yup, it is sad but there is nothing I can do about it

[edirtaynine]

Originally Posted by mylydiamy

Yup, it is sad but there is nothing I can do about it

you should ask if you can make the next month payment in cash directly to her.
then get 4g worth of bills and put two bills aside to keep clean and mint.
use the rest of the $3800 in bills to wipe your shits during the month.
stick the clean bills on top and bottom and tie the stack.
dump the stack in to an envelope and deliver.

or if thats too much work, just hook her up with some crack and see her take herself out.

[Whostheboss]

Originally Posted by mylydiamy

Hello all,

I finally decided to end my 19 years of unhappy marria...

Wow! i just watched this video i can feel your pain.

[Billup]

For those of you whom are married / divorced, did problems not arise until after marriage mostly? Did you have problems prior? Was it mostly communication on opposing views for certain things?

My current SO's mother has been married and divorced twice, her family dynamics are complete opposite of my family (parents have been together for 40 some years, no arguments in the house, respectful to each other). Has anyone experienced something similar with their SO?

[ddk632]

Just don't get fucking married, dude.

[Billup]

Don't plan on it, ever. To me its only a document to shove in a drawer next to the HS diploma.

I don't mind having a girlfriend forever, but I won't allow someone to have a contract to my assets if they feel "unloved" and want out (and I don't care for the BS of a prenup, either).