[Vanity]

Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW

Lol yeah fucking right. Speak for yourself. I'd kick that cheating whore straight to the curb.

I think while the 'opens a can of worms' or 'what can you trust her on then' arguments are somewhat valid, but it would be incredibly foolish to not protect yourself financially. I mean women have pulled this shit on men time and time again.

I hope you guys don't skip out on prenups, because you two sound like the kind of guys who would.

Better to be safe than sorry.

I'd do the same thing ifshe was a cheating whore. But mind you the OP said if you'd secretly DNA test your son "after" now knowing the legal trepidations that could/could not occur if your wife cheated on you.

What I meant was why any expecting-father would worry whether his newborn son was illegitimate in the first place. I don't suspect this rationale to be common to most men and I'd find it odd why you'd now DNA test your child after reading a post in the OT. This is why, if I were in such a situation, I'd still NOT DNA test my child under the grounds of invaliding the trust of the marriage.

While being "safe than sorry" is a relevant aspect, there are more relevant aspects such as keeping a sound marriage and not having it fall into such quick suspicion (especially after your first born child is birthed). Do you see where I'm going with this?

[DougLikesBMW]

Originally Posted by Vanity

I'd do the same thing ifshe was a cheating whore. But mind you the OP said if you'd secretly DNA test your son "after" now knowing the legal trepidations that could/could not occur if your wife cheated on you.

What I meant was why any expecting-father would worry whether his newborn son was illegitimate in the first place. I don't suspect this rationale to be common to most men and I'd find it odd why you'd now DNA test your child after reading a post in the OT. This is why, if I were in such a situation, I'd still NOT DNA test my child under the grounds of invaliding the trust of the marriage.

While being "safe than sorry" is a relevant aspect, there are more relevant aspects such as keeping a sound marriage and not having it fall into such quick suspicion (especially after your first born child is birthed). Do you see where I'm going with this?

DNA test was my stance before I read this thread...And I came to this stance because of the sheer number of stories I have heard of men that this has happened to.

Yeah, I see where you're going with this.

[Vanity]

Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW

DNA test was my stance before I read this thread...And I came to this stance because of the sheer number of stories I have heard of men that this has happened to.

Yeah, I see where you're going with this.

I see where you're coming from then. Well, we can agree to disagree.

[PINeely]

Seems to me like most men aren't going to anyway unless they have a pretty good reason, either from feeling untrusting or from feeling confident in their relationships in the first place. Or from cost, from what I understand DNA testing is relatively expensive. Of course with the "better safe than sorry" mentality, it could go completely the other way. These laws basically facilitate untrusting relationships anyway being that they are built around cheating.

[gill_]

Yes Yes Yes

[samwoo2go]

Originally Posted by PINeely

Seems to me like most men aren't going to anyway unless they have a pretty good reason, either from feeling untrusting or from feeling confident in their relationships in the first place. Or from cost, from what I understand DNA testing is relatively expensive. Of course with the "better safe than sorry" mentality, it could go completely the other way. These laws basically facilitate untrusting relationships anyway being that they are built around cheating.

more expensive than 18 years of child support?

[PINeely]

Originally Posted by samwoo2go

more expensive than 18 years of child support?

Lol. Nope, you make a good point.