[oc24]

Here are my current options I'm considering:

- Say how I'm going to get myself in shape, cause it's summer time and tell her how I'm going to the gym everyday.
- Say "You know, I don't really care what they said. I don't like dating skinny girls." (this should get into her head a bit, yet make me look like i'm not asking her to lose weight)
- Tell her how my ex got me into the relationship by losing all this weight so I could not refuse.

I think option 3 would be the most effective, 2 could be quite risky/mean, and 1 is just sort of an offchance she'll bite on that comment.

[oc24]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

I have to critize her for asking you to be exclusive. Its only been a month, i mean.. dude give it time. Plus in alot of situations, the commitment just usually happens, its not something that you need to plan, ask, give a date..etc. She needs to chill on that or else she will really lose you. Because the moment you put a label on it, thats the moment where you will start looking for problems or reasons to not be with her (hence, what your doing now).

Holy crap that is very odd you said that. When she asked to be exclusive, I said that exact thing, that I don't put labels on things and the relationship just develops naturally.

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by slubu

Holy crap that is very odd you said that. When she asked to be exclusive, I said that exact thing, that I don't put labels on things and the relationship just develops naturally.

Hahah its true! You feel stuck, and pressured and thats not a good thing. A man has to feel like he always has an escape because the moment you cage them, they start to rebel and feel like they are in a position they arent sure they wanna be in. Before the label, things are great.. but once that exclusive shit comes into play, you start doubting if its all worth it. My x and i didnt become exclusive till 3 months after we met, BUT, i never asked him.. "am i your gf?" "whats our official status?".. sure id ask him if he was seeing other girls, but when he said no.. i realized that ok i guess we are exclusive.

[mava330]

Originally Posted by Squawks

EDIT: Latina ladies are hot! Or at least she looks Latina...

Homie... she doesn't look Latina bro... There's a certain "vibe" that Latina women give out.

[mava330]

Originally Posted by slubu

Ha you don't bring sand to the beach...plus the hollywood clubs are usually very productive for single men.

Kill two birds with one stone homie!

[E90-4life]

Shouldn't she be sweating those pounds off in bed?????? Looks like someone indeed is doing what they're suppose to... and it's not her.

[mava330]

Dood. Not trying to sound like a broken record but she’s trying to box you in. Put you in HER little box by having you “commit.” Sorry homie but when it comes to commitments the doods got the nads not the other way around.

It’s similar with the whole courtship process. The men should initiaite and indicate interest in a manner that’s inviting yet with authority. That’s our job man. None of this “if I could I would” crap…

Here’s the deal. She presses you for labels. Don’t shy away from it. This is part of YOUR JOURNEY homie.. You know what they say: the journey’s more important than the destination. If she doesn’t get that and isn’t with you… cut it off bro. No point in putting yourself in a situation where you’re always on the defensive because of HER expectations.

The plain reality is that she’s gotten “comfortable.” Dood she didn’t get comfortable by waking up one morning and telling herself she could “let herself go” and gain pounds… You’re a factor in that. Whatever in her mind that you did or whatever you did YOU have “redirect” this relationship again.

I’ll close with this… A Chinese philosopher once mused: “Frustration is the manifestation of unrealistic expectations.” No point in her or you getting frustrated with each other if you guys don’t agree. Walk away grasshoppa or make it very clear to her that your journey’s with one another is reason enough to sustain without the label.

[BellasBmw]

Yep thats why Mac and i get along so well.. hahah, we got the same thinking process

Its still early enough in the relationship to cut ties. If you arent happy with her, then end it before you lead her on, or invest more time.

I hate to say this, but i think you focusing on her weight is a cover-up to something deeper. I dont think you really see yourself with this type of girl.

[mava330]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

I hate to say this, but i think you focusing on her weight is a cover-up to something deeper. I dont think you really see yourself with this type of girl.

Cause and effect homie…. Is the reason why you’re focusing on her weight because of something that you did? Dood the easiest part about life is criticizing everyone else….

Maybe it’s youth, the feeling of invincibility… whatever. At the end of the day do the responsible thing first (which is sometimes always the hardest). No point in stringing yourselves along if it’s going nowhere.

I may be older than most on this board but I learned this from a Jedi Master: “Old enough to play the game but young enough to score!” hahahaa :rocks: :rocks:

[oc24]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

Yep thats why Mac and i get along so well.. hahah, we got the same thinking process

Its still early enough in the relationship to cut ties. If you arent happy with her, then end it before you lead her on, or invest more time.

I hate to say this, but i think you focusing on her weight is a cover-up to something deeper. I dont think you really see yourself with this type of girl.

Likely the scenario that will occur. I have two other prospects in the wings right now, maybe i'll push one of those up to the forefront and put this one on the backburner.

[oc24]

Originally Posted by mava330

Cause and effect homie…. Is the reason why you’re focusing on her weight because of something that you did? Dood the easiest part about life is criticizing everyone else….

Maybe it’s youth, the feeling of invincibility… whatever. At the end of the day do the responsible thing first (which is sometimes always the hardest). No point in stringing yourselves along if it’s going nowhere.

I may be older than most on this board but I learned this from a Jedi Master: “Old enough to play the game but young enough to score!” hahahaa :rocks: :rocks:

what did i do to cause her to gain weight? In the one month we've been going out I haven't even fed her one time.

PS. How old are ya?

[Squawks]

Damn, Professor Mac is on a roll! Where is the sign-up sheet for Ladies 101, Professor?

[E90-4life]

You hit it and kept hitting it bro, now it's time to give it up.. and aim elsewhere... good luck.

[E90-4life]

Originally Posted by slubu

what did i do to cause her to gain weight? In the one month we've been going out I haven't even fed her one time.

PS. How old are ya?

wait, hold the f up, wasn't it you that pressed a girl and did your best to make her feel like crap just so she could keep coming on to you???? Yep, sounds like someone has some deeper underlying issues that no one here can help.

[mava330]

Originally Posted by Squawks

Damn, Professor Mac is on a roll! Where is the sign-up sheet for Ladies 101, Professor?

roll with us to Eurofest man! check out my thread in the region section.

[mava330]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

Yep thats why Mac and i get along so well.. hahah, we got the same thinking process

Its still early enough in the relationship to cut ties. If you arent happy with her, then end it before you lead her on, or invest more time.

I hate to say this, but i think you focusing on her weight is a cover-up to something deeper. I dont think you really see yourself with this type of girl.

Doods my little prodigy is on her way to becoming playa pimping. Proud of you bella! I like how you "think."

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by mava330

Doods my little prodigy is on her way to becoming playa pimping. Proud of you bella! I like how you "think."

Hahaha i learn from the best.

Slubu- Just take one day at a time. Maybe you should be straight up with this chick and tell her that you are dating/talking to other girls, and you arent ready to be committed. I think being upfront with her will help to avoid any unneccessary confusion and hurt feelings

[oc24]

Originally Posted by E90-4life

wait, hold the f up, wasn't it you that pressed a girl and did your best to make her feel like crap just so she could keep coming on to you???? Yep, sounds like someone has some deeper underlying issues that no one here can help.

That was my thread, never made her feel like crap. I thought people realized the difference between busting a girls balls and making her feel like crap. If I do what you think I do, I would technically not have a problem telling this girl to lose some weight outright.

[RBBMWE46M3]

Have more sex...burn more calories...fun and loose weight

[Squawks]

Originally Posted by slubu

I thought people realized the difference between busting a girls balls and making her feel like crap.

I got your back on this slubu - I did the same too on this one girl I was interested in and she loved it. Once she accidentally shaved off half of her left eyebrow and tried to cover it up by penciling it in and the next day at lunch I noticed...man, I busted her hard!

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by Squawks

I got your back on this slubu - I did the same too on this one girl I was interested in and she loved it. Once she accidentally shaved off half of her left eyebrow and tried to cover it up by penciling it in and the next day at lunch I noticed...man, I busted her hard!

HHhahah YOU guys are mean!

But hey.. lemme tell you.. a girl loves a prick. Dont ask me why.. haha

[NaTuReB0Y]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

HHhahah YOU guys are mean!

But hey.. lemme tell you.. a girl loves a prick. Dont ask me why.. haha

and true gentlemen are very hard to find..........