09-23-2017, 08:44 AM | #45 |
Major
447
Rep 1,060
Posts |
Agreed. 20 years ago, parents had more time to give to there kids. Now most of them dont have time because of work work and work. Thats why so many kids end up with drugs and all other stuff.
__________________
JB4 Tune, MHD backend flash, E85
VRSF 7" Intercooler, BMS OCC VRSF CP & TIAL 50mm BOV, BMP PI DocRace 6266 single turbo. |
Appreciate
3
|
09-23-2017, 09:34 AM | #46 |
Major
1074
Rep 1,268
Posts |
Here my two cents, more accurate my dad's, who never finished high school and was obvious more knowledgable than my teachers.
I tell this story all the time to show how educators priority are screwed up. My parents got called into school because of my behavior in class, I was in 5th grade. The teacher told my parents I was disturbing the class and my classmates. They said I talked all the time and they could not get me to stop. My dad asked, how was I doing and my grades. They said my grades were great and was doing well. My dad next question was, the kids I was talking to how were their grades. The teachers answers was something like well they are not doing as well as me. My dad simply said shouldn't they be having this conversation with those kids and their parents since they are not doing so well. Maybe if those kids didn't talk to me, then I would not be disturbing the class and they would be doing better in school. He also said stop making other people's problems his, he got up and walked out and said to me keep doing what you're doing since I was doing so well. |
Appreciate
4
|
09-23-2017, 10:22 AM | #47 |
Custom User Title
1139
Rep 675
Posts |
I don't have kids, but I know what you are talking about.
Society is going downhill quickly. I was just out with my dog and these people kept getting upset because he was making all these noises and barking! He's a dog for crying out loud people. He doesn't know context of the situations in that he should be quiet inside of a restaurant. Just let dogs be dogs! |
Appreciate
3
|
09-23-2017, 06:36 PM | #49 | |
Private First Class
146
Rep 148
Posts |
Quote:
Eric Trump, is that you??!? |
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-24-2017, 01:23 AM | #50 |
Major
997
Rep 1,003
Posts |
^ Yeah, I didn't get the moral of that story either. Sounded to me like it was okay for your kid to be disruptive in class so long as your kid is getting good grades? And that it was the other kids' fault for not doing as well despite your kid being a disruptive influence in class? That's pretty messed up, if you ask me.
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-24-2017, 07:57 AM | #51 | |
Major
1074
Rep 1,268
Posts |
Quote:
Last edited by Maestro; 09-25-2017 at 03:30 PM.. |
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-24-2017, 08:07 AM | #52 | ||
Major
1074
Rep 1,268
Posts |
Quote:
The moral of the story, it was easier for the schools to complain to my parents than do their job which was to teach. Also they felt they could pressure my parents since they cared, and the other kids parents could care less. So it was their issue not mine. |
||
Appreciate
0
|
09-24-2017, 10:04 AM | #53 | |
Major General
2045
Rep 8,339
Posts |
Quote:
|
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-25-2017, 02:06 PM | #55 | |
Slow.
3804
Rep 7,161
Posts
Drives: N54 6466 100% E85 + Meth
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Boston, MA
|
Quote:
My mother sent me to live with my Father in Nebraska which was like prison. My relationship was never the same with my parents(both sides) ever again. I know they both thought they were doing what was best, but it was not. I hope the fruits of your actions will not come back to bite you in the ass. Also why a Canadian military school if you live in Florida? There are plenty of good US academies. Also, last time I checked, no one is scared of the Canadian military. If I was sent to something like a Military Academy at that age I think I would have done something VERY drastic and damaging...to many people. edit: How can private school be less costly?
__________________
|
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-25-2017, 02:30 PM | #56 | |||
...
11831
Rep 15,400
Posts |
Quote:
Quote:
The kid was grounded for a week and got banned from everything remotely fun for two weeks. That won't get out since i won't ever admit my perfect little shits can be pess than perfect at times.
__________________
Quote:
|
|||
Appreciate
0
|
09-25-2017, 02:36 PM | #57 | |
Major General
2045
Rep 8,339
Posts |
Quote:
As for his actions, they were way beyond what I ever did and what his peers were doing. In fact everyone I have talked to said good for you. His actions for a kid in college, even a h.s. senior would be understandable though not welcome. Not for an 8th grader. Sorry living with your dad was a prison. That wasn't the case here. And if he shapes up this year we will consider bringing him back. Our rules were bed by 11, eat 3 real non junk food meals a day, if you leave the neighborhood tell us, no drugs, do your homework, maybe a chore for an hour on the weekend, in by dark, we monitor his social media. We have the final word and you respect us and our authority. Not draconian I would think. Last edited by Fundguy1; 09-25-2017 at 02:52 PM.. |
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-25-2017, 02:52 PM | #58 | |
Slow.
3804
Rep 7,161
Posts
Drives: N54 6466 100% E85 + Meth
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Boston, MA
|
Quote:
|
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-25-2017, 02:53 PM | #59 |
Major General
2045
Rep 8,339
Posts |
|
Appreciate
1
infinitekidM2C4296.00 |
09-29-2017, 06:42 PM | #60 | |
Banned
2241
Rep 2,476
Posts
Drives: Satan's Chariot 2.0
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: PA
|
Quote:
|
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-29-2017, 07:13 PM | #61 | |
Major General
4296
Rep 5,739
Posts
Drives: 2019 M2 Competition
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Orange County, CA
|
Quote:
|
|
Appreciate
0
|
09-29-2017, 08:09 PM | #62 |
Major General
2045
Rep 8,339
Posts |
Exactly. Needs to get reprogrammed before it gets out of hand. He's there a minimum of one year. We will see how it goes next summer. I'd like him there all four as he would probably get a better education, into a better school, and more scholarship money. We will see.
|
Appreciate
0
|
10-02-2017, 01:44 PM | #63 |
Major General
4296
Rep 5,739
Posts
Drives: 2019 M2 Competition
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Orange County, CA
|
Since there are parents around here with younger kids. What do you think you could have done or not done to avoid some or all of this? I like your level headedness.
|
Appreciate
0
|
10-02-2017, 01:59 PM | #64 |
Major General
2045
Rep 8,339
Posts |
I did all i could. Only thing is recommend is if your kid is on meds, have a talk with the school nurse, not just teachers, and tell your kid how serious they are. We didn't want him to feel different from other kiss so we said it was his medicine. We didn't tell him it was a controlled substance so he didnt think they were any different than an aspirin.
|
Appreciate
0
|
10-27-2017, 10:39 AM | #65 |
Hoonigan
6942
Rep 3,018
Posts
Drives: '09 328i, '98 Wrangler
Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: Connecticut
|
I work with a few local school districts handling their technology plans.
I think one big thing that stands out is that parents try to be friends with their kids. They want their kids to like them, and to accept them. I wasn't friends with my parents, they were my superiors and to be treated with respect. I wasn't too fond of it growing up, but now we have a great relationship and I'm glad they were strict with me. I see a lot of my friends who had the "cool, modern parents" growing up and many of them are in jail, have minimum wage jobs, kids with a bunch of different partners, etc. This isn't to say that my parents were dictators or anything, they actually entertained quite a bit and we had a lot of fun growing up, but if they told me something was to be done a certain way, I did it. I was the typical class clown in school, but I knew that I didn't want my parents coming to the school if there was a problem, and they never really had to. I might have gotten in trouble a few times and each time my parents sided with the teacher. These days kids can do no wrong, and I've seen teachers even get sued by parents for saying the kid did something wrong, it's insane.
__________________
"Yeah, but your scientists were so preoccupied with whether or not they could, they didn't stop to think if they should."
-Dr. Ian Malcolm, Jurassic Park |
Post Reply |
Bookmarks |
|
|