[Robin_NL]

OK, I 'm happy:

"Wanna tell you a story (Riff 1)
Bout a woman I know (Riff 1)
Ah come to loving (Riff 1)
And she steals the show (Riff 1)
She ain't exactly pretty (Riff 1)
Ain't exactly small (Riff 1)
Forty two, thirty nine, Fifty six,
You could say she's got it all" (AC/DC) :rocks:

Well, the last 4 sentences are totally wrong but to make a long story even longer:

Last thursday I was(on my own) in the IKEA store in Amsterdam, no problems so far. The restaurant there has good sausages and good tomato soup for a reasonable(cheap) price. I was gonna buy a Volvo there, but the only one they had for sale was already sold to a young So Cal woman they told me.

OK, I was sipping my soup when in the corner of my eye I saw a woman passing by and taking a seat/table next to mine. No problems so far. She didn't (want to?)notice me, but she didn't look exactly unaware either. A bit shyish??? Dunno. She had a latin look, which I liked the first time I saw her(that's about 17 seconds ago in this story).

I was the brave guy by letting her know I was around: HOLA, I said.
She replied with a soft voice:hola.
Then I started to talk in Spanish about where to find the ketchup for my soup. She was flabbergasted and started laughing.

Why the h. did I know she spoke Spanish she told me in Dutch with a hispanic accent. Her voice. Man.
I told her I assume she is from a latin country because of her looks.
She is originaly from Mexico City and has been living here for the past few years. Studying Economy etc etc in MX City and in Amsterdam as well blabla. She wanted to buy a bed at IKEA.
I told her(again in Spanish which she found fantastic, a Dutch guy talking Spanish) I can help her with choosing the bed (because we need it both anyway in the future but I didn't tell her that off course, LOL)

She said: "Alright, my name is Alicia." We shook hands and her hand was a bit sweaty. She excused herself but no worries lady I told her.
How weird: we started talking right away what we were doing(here) who we are etc etc. Nothing about the bed, LOL. And all in Spanish. She was divorced. Her ex was living in MX City again. 28 years old is she and gorgeous and imho very intelligent too.
Afer a while I gave her my telephone numbers. She gave me a friendly kiss and her numbers and e mail adress as well.
We split.

I got an email that night with nice words etc etc.
I replied.

Last sundaynight met her in the centre of Amsterdam. We went to a restaurant blablablablabla. She was a bit nervous/shy but very very polite/nice etc.
After the dinner I played taxidriver and in my car we (AT LAST) kissed a bit much(but nothing more).
She told me she found it very difficult because of her problems in her former relationship etc, but she was a bit mad about me...

I'm not going to tell you what happened today/tonight when I was at her place
But I'm a bit crazy about her too.

This is going way too fast.
GIRLS, what must I do. I like her a lot. a lot a lot a lot. :rocks:

[RedStripe]

Great story... also, I know you requested input from the girls... but I've seen this same situation before, so I'm going to throw one thing out there for you:
"Play it cool".

IMO, the WORST thing you could do is to get all mushy and soft and be overly attentive at this point. Maintain the control and the leverage by NOT being there/with her all the time at the beginning. In fact, I know it sounds odd, but the worse you treat her (to a degree), the more she'll want you.

My 2 cents.

[BellasBmw]

OK robin Hood, heres my .02 cents

#1-DO NOT let her know how much you like her.
#2-DO NOT get pushy or lovey dovey.
#3-Give her a chase, all girls love the thrill of the chase. The harder it is for me to "break him" the more interested i am. (my weakness, the harder the guy is to get, the more i want him..)
#4-If she calls, dont answer the first time. Then call her back, makes us wonder what you're doing..and makes me curious as to how you feel about me.
#5-Dont get eager and wanna start planning dates, and what not. You should leave things out in the open, that way if she really wants to see you, she'll ask. Most women like to be in control.
#6-If you act needy, she'll drop you like a bad habit.
#7- DONT be overly available. If you always there when she wants, its not fun. Feels like your a "puppy dog"

Anymore tips, let me know.. Congrats on the

[aapriadi]

i guess take things slowly..i agree with what redstripe said, you dont wanna be all over her this soon...make sure she knows you care a lot about her and that you'll give her all the time she needs for this relationship to work
but this is just my opinion..wish you all the best!!

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by aapriadi

make sure she knows you care a lot about her and that you'll give her all the time she needs for this relationship to work

I disagree on this one. If you show her how much you like her, how much you care about her.. then her expectations are gonna be set high. IF your start off as "whatever", eventually, you'll turn into that sweetheart, and thus, she'll love the person you became. If a guy is lovey dovey in the beginning, it makes me wonder if its an act to impress me.

[RedStripe]

Originally Posted by aapriadi

i guess take things slowly..i agree with what redstripe said, you dont wanna be all over her this soon...make sure she knows you care a lot about her and that you'll give her all the time she needs for this relationship to work
but this is just my opinion..wish you all the best!!

I don't mean to belittle anything that aapriadi said, but my opinion is DON'T make sure she knows you care a lot about her. I'd probably have to know who you are to give you some more decent advice... but all I can say is, if you want her to be eating out of the palm of your hand... you have to learn to be a little cruel and selfish. They love that.... even though they'll never admit it. It's so true. Ok, I'll stop now.

[diesel007]

Girls are just like guys. They like the chase, and when they get what they want they are over it. It's all a f..ing cat and mouse game...

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by diesel007

Girls are just like guys. They like the chase, and when they get what they want they are over it. It's all a f..ing cat and mouse game...

Very true.. ill admit it. However, this could only go on for so long, cause eventually the cat will get bored chasing the same mouse with no results. It will move on, and look for a new one.

[Robin_NL]

Thanks a lot Bella. Very transparent and useful(but I already knew a few tricks, I 'm an old man u know)

This sunday I 'm going to see her again and tell her I hate her as much as I hate my BMW

[diesel007]

Originally Posted by Robin Hood

Thanks a lot Bella. Very transparent and useful(but I already knew a few tricks, I 'm an old man u know)

This sunday I 'm going to see her again and tell her I hate her as much as I hate my BMW

I think 2PAC said it best:

"Hate to sound sleazy but tease me, I don't want it if it's that easy."

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by diesel007

I think 2PAC said it best:

"Hate to sound sleazy but tease me, I don't want it if it's that easy."

I love tupac

[mava330]

Slow your roll bud.... can we say aloof?? Seriously take it chill. Ask her questions... have her open up about herself. You.... stay mysterious; it'll drive her crazy and then you'll see that latin passion come out.

[Robin_NL]

Originally Posted by mava330

and then you'll see that latin passion come out.

I've been into latin passion for about 1 and a half years(ended last year)

So mixed emotions whatever

But I'm going to the pub.

Tonight we(my hometown) won from Steaua Bukarest with 1-0(we were visting Bukarest)UEFA CUP soccer, but we didn't make it, because we lost last week (home) with 1-3 g*ddamned


But her appearance in my mind keeps me and

[aapriadi]

bella, you're right i guess robin hood shouldnt take my advice sorry bro...i'm still single and i've never even got a valentine's date ever!! that shows how pathetic i am lol

[F32Fleet]

I"m 33yrs old and reading this shit. Unbelievable..I gotta get back to work.

[diesel007]

Originally Posted by aapriadi

bella, you're right i guess robin hood shouldnt take my advice sorry bro...i'm still single and i've never even got a valentine's date ever!! that shows how pathetic i am lol

See there is your problem; you have to be the Man. You have to act like you don't care. That's want women want they are like hunting lions but they don't want the little baby antelope they want the strongest one of the bunch.

Women love a project too. They want a man with some issues because they feel like they can improve that guy to their standards. If they think you are the perfect guy they will stay away because in the back of their mind they will think: “there has gotta be something wrong with this guy.”

[underDAWG]

I don't get it......... folks.

How can you give advice without seeing her pic first?

So please post her pic...... Thank you.

[aapriadi]

lol thx for the advice diesel007 but women are so complicated..i'm so sick and tired of playing cat and mouse with them, just got rejected recently..not rejected but somehow the girl started to act like i dont exist at all since jan'06..everything went smoothly in 05 but..anyway i'm through with it and i've given up...good luck with your girl robin hood and thx again diesel007

[BellasBmw]

Originally Posted by diesel007

Women love a project too. They want a man with some issues because they feel like they can improve that guy to their standards. If they think you are the perfect guy they will stay away because in the back of their mind they will think: “there has gotta be something wrong with this guy.”

I did the whole "guy with issues" thing, and let me tell you.. people DO NOT CHANGE. I much rather not be involved in that kind of nonsense again

[diesel007]

Originally Posted by aapriadi

lol thx for the advice diesel007 but women are so complicated..i'm so sick and tired of playing cat and mouse with them, just got rejected recently..not rejected but somehow the girl started to act like i dont exist at all since jan'06..everything went smoothly in 05 but..anyway i'm through with it and i've given up...good luck with your girl robin hood and thx again diesel007

There are lots of fish in the sea, you will find one.

[fllpunk]

yeah wheres the " THIS THREAD IS POINTLESS WITHOUT PICTURES" icon!?
HOwever, like my buddy bill said (that someone else said) : "WHEN IN DOUBT, F**K!"
Cheers.

oh wait here it is:

[diesel007]

Originally Posted by BellasBmw

I did the whole "guy with issues" thing, and let me tell you.. people DO NOT CHANGE. I much rather not be involved in that kind of nonsense again

You just couldn’t break him. Hate to get all Dr. Phil on you, but we all have issues.