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Speaking as a first gen of Chinese decent, the culture fosters respect towards elders and to help your parents in their old age regardless of whether they have money or not. I remember my mother ingraining in my head that if it wasn't for them, I wouldn't be alive both from the standpoint of conceiving me and supporting me. In my situation, my parents haven't moved in with me yet. But I told my now wife before we got married that I have an obligation to provide a room for my parents to move in if the time comes. She agreed with me and understood why as she said she has a similar viewpoint; she's Polish. It's actually pretty funny that my wife sponsored her mother to come over from Poland and we've provided a room for her in our house to stay in until she gets on her feet. Another perspective on this is my friend who is first gen from Pakistan. He helped buy the house his parents are living in now BEFORE he bought a place of his own. He got ridiculed by other Americanized/western coworkers for being a momma's boy and dumb for doing what he's doing. This is one of the reasons why he and I got along so well because we both understand this parental "duty" of ours which the typical American doesn't get. While the culture fosters providing all you can to help your kids to grow up and be successful, I don't agree with the out right spoiling of the kids which are the focus of this thread. There's a balance. |
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chinese kid maybe 18 yro bought my last car with cash. i was happy i sold it and thought good for him, enjoy.
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Dear Dad, Berlin is wonderful, people are nice and I really like it here. But Dad, I am a bit ashamed to arrive at my college with my pure-gold Ferrari Ferrari 599 GTB when all my teachers and many fellow students travel by train. Your son, Nasser The next day, Nasser gets a reply to his e-mail from his Dad: Nasser's Dad My dear loving son, Twenty million US Dollars has just been transferred to your account. Please stop embarrassing us. Go and get yourself a train too. Love, your Dad
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Its great that its a responsibility and all, and I'd want to take care of my parents too, I just would prefer not to have them live with me. And whether its a responsibility or not, was not my point. |
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11-24-2014, 03:45 PM | #30 | |
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While I do owe much to my parents with their emphasis on making something out of myself and some financial help, I can say 100% all that I have now has been due to my hard work which no one gave to me nor did I inherit through family riches. I don't expect any western/fully Americanized individuals to ever understand the taking care of their parents when they're old mentality. Because what you view as a burden is what many of us of Asian background view as the socially/morally right thing to do. |
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LOL, I remember one of the member who posted it.
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Traditional north american culture is all about independence. 18 years old and you GTFO. Asians, Pakistanis, Polish, Italians, Greeks, a lot of other cultures are all about family. That doesn't mean that Asians can't be independent or Americans don't love their families, but the priorities are different. I dont wanna live with my parents right now since they are both perfectly healthy and able to take care of themselves. So I am going to enjoy my independence for now. They have more than enough savings for their retirement but later as their health begins to deteriorate I would want them to move in with me or my brother. They spent a good part of their lives taking care of me. And in the final years of their lives I want to spend my time returning the favor before they leave this world. It's not a burden. I would regret it more if I didn't spend more time with them before they left. I also had the benefit of living with my grandparents when they lived together in the same house and me and my parents. I want my kids to have the same connection with their grandparents.
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