[NYCGarbagePrince]

I don't understand people that put such a huge emphasis on the word "love". It makes no sense to me. You have no problem saying, " I love this song" or "I love my car". It's just a description of how you feel about something. It's people with commitment phobias or fear of rejection that make such a big deal over the word love.

You said it yourself, "I really like this girl." Then sorry buddy, you love her. People that throw love up on a pedestal like it is the holy fucking grail are stupid. I have loved many women in my short life, and never had a problem expressing it. Sometimes I may have used it to my advantage, but that was only because I recognized the fact that it is stupid to turn around to someone that you do care for and say, "I really really like you a lot!" It sounds childish, because it is.

Everyone wants to be a tough guy and act like they are emotionless. It is a great way to keep from getting hurt. You can also choose to be a man-whore and not give a shit about anything you screw. But then you really don't love the girl you are banging, let alone like her.

Don't try to be like someone you are not and don't make it out to be a bigger deal than it is. Say it if you "like her a whole lot", or walk away. I say this because if you can't express yourself to someone you supposedly care for, then you are only kidding yourself. It's alright to be vulnerable every once and a while and most women find it attractive. The ones that don't, they like getting abused and you don't want a girl like that because you don't seem like the abusive type.

my .02

One last thing, if your friends or anyone you know gives you shit for saying, "I love you" to a girl you are with. They are either trying to bust your balls, or they are jealous. Either way, who gives a fuck because you're happy.

Now where are my fucking pics..?

[klipseracer]

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[DougLikesBMW]

Good man for putting pics back up .

Would hit/10

[NYCGarbagePrince]

Looks more like a gift than an issue.. Nice work!

[graider]

i had a headache after reading OP thread. LOL

anyway, just tell her your real feeling. if she is the one, she will understand. if she doesn't, fwck her for the time being.

[CasperSYTFU]

ok well you give me her number and I'LL tell her I love her.

[Quick6EF]

Without reading all the previous posts, all I can say is honesty (within reason) is your absolute best bet.

You even said it yourself, "I said ilu in a previous relationship and it didn't feel real when I said it."

Just let her know that you have strong feelings for her, but until she lets you stuff it in her tush, you won't say I love you.

k?

[Seminole]

I don't have time to read the whole thread, but I did see the part where you broke up with the original girl who you had cheated on. Good. If you hadn't I'd have punched you in the tits.

Moving on, don't tell her you love her if you don't. That's only going to lead to bad things. Just be honest with her. Say, "I am really attracted to you. I really like you and love to spend time with you. But I can't say I love you if it's not true. I would be lying to you and I don't want to do that. Wouldn't you want me to be sincere if I say I love you? I really want to be with you and to be in a relationship with you and I'll say I love you when the time is right."

Something like that.

[BMW F22]

Originally Posted by NYCGarbagePrince

I don't understand people that put such a huge emphasis on the word "love". It makes no sense to me. You have no problem saying, " I love this song" or "I love my car". It's just a description of how you feel about something. It's people with commitment phobias or fear of rejection that make such a big deal over the word love.

You said it yourself, "I really like this girl." Then sorry buddy, you love her.

I don't really give a shit about trying to be someone I'm not. I don't do that and I couldn't care less about those that do. However, THERE IS a difference between "like" and "love". I used to toss that word around a lot. Then I learned that it means a lot more to women than it does to men. To us "ILY" is just an expression (as in I really, really, really like you or whatever). To women, it just means so much more. IMO saying ILY to a girl when you don't mean it is like trying to lure her into a false sense of security. To each his own but just because you have your own opinion/beliefs doesn't mean others are stupid.

[klipseracer]

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[GMWNashville]

Originally Posted by klipseracer

Pics are back off. In fact I left them up longer than I had intended lol... Anyway, I've spent a lot more time with her and she still says it to me and she knows that I won't say it till I mean it. She is sayin, "You're stuck with me". And "I'm not gonna share you with anybody!" She really is an amazing girl in a lot of ways, not just a pretty face but she has her shit together... That right there is worth more to me than the most beautiful face ass or titties. She says she will wait for me to say it and she doesn't mind because she knows that when I say it I'll mean it.

seems to me like you answered your own questions man-if shes cool with you not saying you love her until your really sure you mean it-then i think shes certianly worth putting the time and effort into really seeing if you truely do love her. If shes cool with you being you-and she has her shit together-and your cool with her doing what shes doing-then your certainly going in the right direction.