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The problem is...even if she has the degree, drive, career, she'll still probably end up finding an excuse to stop working. They're called children. After she has one, she'll probably push for another - that's about 6 years right there. You'd probably have your first kid after what, 2 years of marriage...so that's 8 right there. Another two years arguing and you're at 10 years. Jackpot for the stay-at-home-(person).
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Men have spent a long time convincing women that what we want from a wife is a mother and a cook.
It'll take some time, but the more we tell them that they have value beyond childbearing the more of these catches will be out there. My wife makes more than 2x what i do. Gets up at 5am to exercise and then puts in a good 50 hours a week working. Loves our dog but wants nothing to do with having a child. We decided that if we changed our minds and wanted a child we would adopt an older kid, 10+ years old. We've been married for 10 years and things are just as they were the day we met. 13 years ago. I would emphasize to the youngsters reading this thread that you should talk about these types of things prior to getting hitched. Kids, work, money, lifestyle, etc... These are the things that will ruin your marriage faster than anything else. Get with someone that's compatible in these areas.
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Next up those with children will state how selfish we are.
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The now wife of one of my friends used to always tell me that I am a very selfish person for not being interested in having kids. I tried telling her not everyone has the same priorities in life, plus the world is already overpopulated. Why add another kid to it? I also told her the most selfish thing a person can do is attempt to prolong their genetic existence on this planet by having kids. The amusing thing is that she has recently decided she does not want kids. However, I have also read about more and more people who are intelligent and affluent deciding not to have kids while those less intelligent are rapidly reproducing. Maybe we are slowly on the way to a society like that in the movie Idiocracy.
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No more wife, leaves plenty of room for plenty of girlfriends with no strings. Go out and find some nice women to have fun with, get a good couple nights worth, and go find another one. Infinite women (depending on your personality).
Best of luck, sorry to hear things didn't work out. Like everyone said, there's always a brighter side to everything, no use dwelling on anything that can take away from that. |
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Also do not let sex be the deciding factor! Even it gets boring after a while... |
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To avoid paying her anything I could have moved out of country. She would get absolutely nothing and no child support. Basically you could walk and not pay a dime. As shitty as that sounds that is an option. I would get remarried and move out of current area. |
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08-03-2013, 03:21 PM | #368 | |
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Another thing ,why on Earth do you men let your wife's know about this shit? Most wife's have no fricken clue what they are entitled and most cant afford an attorney anyway. Why would you tell them what type of money you make? I hinted in my marriage but with so many divorces you never know when your marriage will be compromised so I treaded cautiously. I never shared a bank account with my ex-wife or shared any assets. She came into a marriage and left with what she came in with, nothing. She deserved nothing. I dont give two shits what some court thinks. If she would have come after my retirement or any of my money I would have remarried and moved out of the country. Problem solved. I hate seeing guys getting screwed over by bitches. Last edited by Endless619; 08-03-2013 at 03:32 PM.. |
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08-19-2013, 02:36 PM | #369 |
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I'm probably way too late to this party, but I saw OP post this thread in another thread today.
OP: I'm not divorced (was never married) but I do pay CS, so I have some idea of what you are going through, I went through a similarly shitty breakup with my ex. I'm not sure if your case is already settled (even if so, they can be amended) -- but a couple of things to consider: 1. Imputation of Income -- If your wife has any kind of degree, or professional certification, even if you can prove she had X job before -- your lawyer should be able to argue that the judge 'impute' the higher income on her as if she currently makes it, even if she doesn't -- which would re-balance the CS/AL numbers. 2. Get full custody of your daughter -- She's 14, which means she decides which parent she wants to live with. Sounds like you have a financial advantage, and this might sound cold: but you should lie, cheat, bribe and steal to convince her to choose to live with you full time. If that happens, not only does the CS go away -- it goes against your EX, which should reduce the ALM payment by cancelling some of it out (I don't care if its $300 a month, you want it). 3. Once you've done #2 -- You and your daughter can take the advice of the above posters, my personal choice would be Germany. Then you get to keep your daughter, and your money -- since you are a programmer, you should be able to either telecommute or pursue a similarly-paid position in Europe. |
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I would like to point out that this is the internet and anything that you say here OP, your ex-wife could potentially find and use against you. I haven't read all 18 pages and I'm not saying you've said anything wrong. I just wanted to throw that out there. I hope everything goes well and in your favor. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
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This is why I am married a Dr. She makes around $600k per year and I won't ever make that much, well not for a few years anyways. I am at a little over $100k now as an engineering manager. If it goes south... she will have no interest in my money nor would she be able to get it either.
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08-19-2013, 04:54 PM | #374 | |
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I did your #1. She used make $90K a year and now makes only 30K. My lawyer was able to adjust her income to 60K but that was the most it could be accepted since good old days are gone, and there is no way sghe can make 90K again. #2 is IMPOSSIBLE unless the other parent gives up his/her parental rights. This was not the case so I got 50/50. Thanks |
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