[Neema]

Originally Posted by Tranzporter

No woman is going to tell me what I can/can't drive.

The girl I'm seeing actually loves my car and wants an e90 335i

+1, E92 for mine

[92tripleblack]

I pick the car, options, engine, etc. I let her pick the color from a short list. This is for my car and her car.

[OC Guy]

Originally Posted by tomegun

Things like this are always funny to me. The husband wants something, the woman wants something and it is always the husbands job to respect their wives. OK, whatever. What about the woman respecting her husband.

I would look at the situation as a whole and there should be balance between a husband and wife. The wife shouldn't be so dominant that the man cannot make any decisions on his own. If that is the case, there is something else wrong IMO.

Respect is a 2-way street.

[stimpy]

Originally Posted by Lassaxi

OR, you and your wife could stop acting like selfish brats and (1) make responsible purchases and (2) share your money and possesions like mature adults.

I don't feel the need to 'share' *my* money - neither does she. What's commonly owned, we both pay for. I'm not spending her money to buy mods for my car, new computer parts, etc. She's not spending my money buying clothes, beauty products, etc.

Sure this isn't the typical way of handling finances when married but it works for us and it is working for more and more couples these days. I don't feel the need to consult my wife on purchases and she feels the same. The big thing is making sure the bills are paid for, we go out often, and buy the toys we want.

We are not selfish, we do make responsible purchases, and we do share possessions like mature adults. I appreciate you judging me though.

Originally Posted by phantom330

kind of defeats the purpose of marriage......why get married if you're going to do everything separate, just date the person. It should be all one, if you can't work as a team towards your goals you shouldn't be together. Just my .02

Because we have seperate bank accounts defeats the purpose of getting married and we don't work as a team towards our goals? Uhh why's that? I fail to see how those two things have anything to do with each other. All of 'our goals' are taking care of with a common bank account we have together. The 'toy' money we have in our own accounts. If we want to do a cruise for example - we will both throw a few hundred bucks in the common account every paycheck to save for it.

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[Neema]

being whipped or not is in the back of a lot guys minds......because drawing the line between just being nice and being too nice/whipped is cloudy sometimes.

[THE JEDI]

My wife just looked at a 2000 dollar fucking Italian Marbel dinner table.....I was wtf who's gonna eat or better yet sit at that thing....I was like Jesus(hey-seus)....she said well it's what I like and ya know what I said....well I aint paying that much for a fucking table..and she was like well thats what I want....so for all you guys who say ya should respect ya wife and compromise..........My wife has full run of the house..but damn....I can't see it..but ole well we will make deal..love and marriage...PSST I aint gonna buy it..I aint that whipped

[jaiman]

Originally Posted by stimpy

This is a prime example of why you have different finances with your wife. You have a joint bank account which you pay joint bills out of (house, utilities, groceries) and then you have your own bank accounts for your car, taking each other on dates, etc. This method is very black and white and cuts out on a lot of the fights couples have these days.

It's a dual income world these days...

that's pretty much the best way to build resentment when one person earns subtantially more than the other.

[Island Snow]

Talk about being whipped. A week ago I saw a Korean guy carrying his girlfriend's purse on his shoulders ...so I asked my co-worker (she's Korean) and she said that this is common in their culture...carrying a girl's purse while walking inside the mall is degrading to a man IMO